Tuesday, January 6, 2009


The media would have me believe that women in today's society have automatically have the right to be respected by their husbands, whether they've earned it or not. The media would also have me believe that husbands must earn their respect from their wives, over and over and over again.

I really hope that this is just a big mistake on the part of the television/movie/magazine/radio/internet/etc. industries. And yet, I fear that they're not far off the mark.

Take, for example, a radio ad that I heard shortly before Christmas. A bunch of women are lamenting over the fact that their husbands are so hard to shop for and how dare they be that way. One woman chimes in that she got a something-or-other (I don't even remember what the ad was for) and at the very least he could return it, but he wasn't going to want to because it was just so perfect of a gift. Another woman said she wished she could just return her husband to which the group replied, "Yeah, girl!" and "Where is that receipt?!" "ahahahahaha." Are you kidding me?!?! Luckily Bret and the boys were downstairs because I gave the radio what for. Your husband is hard to shop for so that makes him an ignoramus and you should divorce him?!?! Sheesh.

Here are some Marriage 101 tips: Don't belittle your husband in front of your friends. Don't waste time being upset about stupid things like "I can't think of what to get you for Christmas, you dolt." Don't joke about divorce. Don't even think about divorce, for that matter.

Respect goes both ways in a marriage, ladies. If you want your husband to respect you, you might try showing him a bit of it.

I'm preaching to the choir, I know. But it makes me feel better just to get it out there.


Jordan (MamaBlogga) said...

Happy see you blogging for the world to read again! I'm sorry it took me this long to find your "public" blog, but glad to read your thoughts!

I think that in a marriage, mutual respect should be almost automatic. By the time you've gotten married and/or been married a while, you should have already earned the respect of your spouse through building trust, being trustworthy and showing respect and love. You shouldn't have to continually reearn that respect (because the actions that built the respect in the first place should be ongoing)--and you shouldn't tear it down behind your spouse's back or to his/her face.

Lindsey said...

True statment, Jordan. Respect shouldn't have to be earned once a couple has gotten married, it should already be there. It needs to be maintained. You can't automatically expect respect from your spouse if you're tearing it down on your own side.